I need help with my relationship!
It goes without saying that God made men and women – His crowning glory of creation for fellowship and relationship with Him! Have a relationship problem? I firmly believe most relationship issues could be solved in no time if we stopped asking the wrong question – namely; “what can my wife, my husband, my mother, my father, my son, daughter, friend, my boss, the nation – or even the world do for me?” – and start asking the right question; “what can I do for said parties!” Now think about todays – what can I get out of this – marriages in stead of what can I be for this person made in the image of the living God and you soon know why they fall apart.
J.F.K. was not wrong when he told America what man’s real problem was (the many other issues essentially boil down to this) when he bravely pointed this out, despite his human shortcomings. It’s appears to be a scary fact that the truth can get actually you killed. Jesus said; “there is no love greater than a man that lays his life down for his brother.” Cliche this is not – and if we would just have that one commandment on our wall – Thou Shalt Not Covet – and add to that Jesus’ summary of the 10 – love (i.e. serve – not Like their Facebook posts 🙂 your neighbour as yourself – most relationship troubles would disappear without trace.
Q: Help – I’ve got relationship problems – any advice?
Relationships problems come in all sorts of ways. Sometimes it is simply finding a Christian partner that’s the problem… other times it’s all about the one you’re in at the moment! Fusion101 get emails all the regarding Christian relationships – some people trying to figure out if the person their with is the right one (well, if you’re having to think that hard about it?!:) 101 Christian Dating Advice guide >>
It’s great that people are asking questions and not just running off with the first person they meet. The truth is – finding a Christian partner isn’t always easy – probably for the majority. There often just aren’t enough Christians nearby so people are using other means to meet people like the Internet and Christian Introduction agencies – and if they feel settled about it in their heart – rightly so:) All these avenues are good ways to widen your social circle.
OK – here’s some guidance you might want to consider:
talk about your concerns with your partner (if you have one) – you can’t keep issues covered up forever – if they don’t get talked about now they will come up later when you’ve tied the knot and it’s too late!
Be prepared to bend a little towards each other. If someone isn’t willing to meet you halfway then maybe it’s not worth pursuing – that’s assuming what you are asking them to do is reasonable.
If you are unable to resolve your differences – find a Christian counsellor or someone in your church you can confide in. Approach these situations with an open mind and treat everything as a learning experience.
Also with relationships you’re gonna have to be real and admit the truth sometimes that the reason something isn’t working is because its never going to work – under any circumstances – you’re just not right for each other. Work this one out if you can near the start of the relationship – another great reason why you should take things slow and never get too physical as you may hurt each other! Don’t be frightened of how to get out of a relationship – just do it if you know it’s not right! There are more fish is the sea!!
All relationships have hard times – give it a chance to live and breath like real relationships do. If you think it’s right (not just for you) give it some time. Then you will know if things are going to stand still of move forward. What sort of Time are we talking about?.. 6-12 months – that should give you enough time to move forward or move on.
Lastly – we would encourage you to read your Bible – as this is hands down the best relationship guide there is!
More Bible References and relationship Sites, Tips and help
www.relationshipplace.com – relationship help for Christians.
Love properly and learn the key to a successful marriage.
Christian Dating Advice – relationship guide just for Christians.
www.christian-counseling-online.com
Encouragement and help being Single
Looking for online Diary sites or Journals for Christians? Try Christian Xanga – online journal, blog and Diary for Christians.
Recommended Relationship Help Books
Helping Your Struggling Teenager
A Parenting Handbook on Thirty-Six Common Problems — This practical resource tool and handbook for parents details thirty common teenage problems arranged alphabetically from abuse to suicide and including such hot topics as anger, depression, drugs and alcohol, gender issues, loneliness, masturbation, peer pressure and shyness.
What Do You Do When Your Teenager Is in Trouble?
Where do you turn for dependable, expert advice?
Start here. Helping Your Struggling Teenager gives you the practical information you need as a parent on thirty-six common, critical concerns your child may face. From drug and alcohol abuse to parental divorce and premarital relations, professional Christian counsellor Les Parrott gives you essential insights not only on specific issues, but also on how to offer effective help as a parent.
Secrets of an Irresistible Woman – By Michelle McKinney-Hammond
A singles counsellor who’s heard the stories of hundreds of frustrated single women, Michelle Hammond is committed to helping women find happiness and lasting love. It’s a matter of discovering the rules–and following them.
Real Christian relationships are made at 101 FREE Christian singles >>
Top Christian relationships books
The Pursuit of Holiness
By Jerry Bridges
Holiness. The Christian’s joint venture with God — “Be holy, for I am holy,” commands God to His people. But holiness is something that is often missed in the Christian’s daily life. According to Jerry Bridges, that’s because we’re not exactly sure what our part in holiness is. In The Pursuit of Holiness, he helps us see clearly just what we should rely on God to do-and what we should accept responsibility for ourselves. Whether you’re continuing your pursuit of holiness or just beginning, the principles and guidelines in The Pursuit of Holiness will challenge you to obey God’s command of holiness. This book will help you understand how God has equipped us to lead holy lives. It provides guidelines for determining right from wrong, and shows how habits and personal discipline play a part in holy living.
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